What we do
We bring together like-minded women and non-binary people to bond over mutual interests. Pottery classes, hiking adventures, opera nights, philosophy salons, and more - pursue your passions, make friends along the way.
Takes 2 minutes • No commitment required
How it works
1. Share Your Vibe
Take our 2-minute survey about your personality, interests, and what you're looking for in friendships. We use this to thoughtfully match you with women who share your energy.
2. Get Your Invitation
We'll invite you to curated gatherings designed around your passions - cocktail-making classes, weekend hikes, opera nights, pottery workshops, and more. Each event brings together 6-10 women we think you'll genuinely vibe with.
3. Show Up & Connect
After each event, we ask: "Who would you connect with again?" If two of you select each other, we send you an introduction. No awkward follow-up. No pressure. No time wasted swiping.
Why mutuals?
No forced commitment — Unlike programs that lock you into 6-week cohorts, you choose which gatherings to attend based on what genuinely interests you and when you're available.
Connections made easy — Our mutual match system removes the "who reaches out first?" anxiety. If you both felt it, we make the introduction.
Thoughtfully matched — Our personality survey ensures you're meeting women who share your values, communication style, and social energy - not just your hobbies.
Elevated experiences — We don't just organize drinks or dinner. We create moments worth showing up for, experiences designed to spark genuine conversation.
Our Events
Food & drink
Cocktail-making • Tastings • Restaurant tours • Cooking • Breadmaking
Arts & creativity
Pottery • Painting • Photography • Crafting • Sewing • Knitting • Embroidery
Fitness & wellness
Group hikes • Yoga classes • Dance workshops • Weekend nature walks
Culture & entertainment
Museum tours • Theatre, ballet & opera outings • Live music • Film screenings
Intellectual & social
Book clubs • Career discussions • Philosophy salons • Investing 101 • Comedy
+ more
We're always adding new experiences based on what our community wants.
Is Mutuals right for you?
You might be a great fit if:
You’re looking for community and friends
You love doing things, but are tired of doing them alone
You want to engage with the Bay Area in a deeper way
Your friend group has shifted and you're ready to expand your circle
You're curious, intentional, and ready to invest in real connection
You're probably not a fit if:
You're looking for networking or professional connections (we're about friendship, not business)
You prefer large group events or parties (our gatherings are intimate, 6-10 women)
You're not willing to show up in person (we're all about face-to-face connection)
FAQs
How much do events cost? Event costs vary depending on the activity - typically $25-75 to cover the venue, materials, or tickets. We keep prices accessible while ensuring quality experiences.
How often are events held? We host 3-5 gatherings per month across different interests and neighborhoods. You'll receive invitations to events we think match your vibe.
What if I'm shy or introverted? Many of our members identify as introverts! Our small group sizes (6-10) and activity-based format make connection feel natural, not forced. Plus, we match you with those who share your social energy.
How do you match people? We use a personality survey based on psychological research about friendship compatibility. We look at communication style, values, social energy, and interests - not just hobbies.
What if I don't vibe with anyone at an event? That's totally okay! There's no pressure to connect. Simply attend the events that interest you and see what happens naturally. Not every gathering will result in a new best friend, and that's perfectly fine.
Can I bring a friend? Our events are invite-only, designed for individual sign-ups to encourage new connections. However, we encourage your friend to complete the survey, and email us— if they naturally fit with the group we've curated, we will extend them an invite.
What neighborhoods do you serve? We host events across San Francisco and the broader Bay Area, including Oakland, Berkeley, and the Peninsula. You'll be invited to gatherings convenient to your location. If you'd like to bring Mutuals to your city let us know.
Ready to find your people?
Take our quick survey to get started. No commitment, no pressure - just the first step toward friendships that feel easy and authentic.
